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With all the information out there on what we should and shouldn't say during an interview, it's easy to believe that conforming to the 'experts' advice' is the recipe for doing well in a job interview....but
Today is the first day of the rest of your life! You can live it anyway you like. You can go to the Doctor and get help fighting the bug. You can go and sit with a patient and keep each other company in a shared problem.
Your Ego bears false witness!
Today is the first day of the rest of your life! You can live it anyway you like. You can go to the Doctor and get help fighting the bug. You can go and sit with a patient and keep each other company in a shared problem.
Your Ego bears false witness!
The Worst Kind of Bullying. In this video we introduce a topic that many people who are bullied are familiar with, but perhaps have never quite thought about it in this way.
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The topic of today's video is Bully-induced sleeplessness is much under-rated. Getting a good night's sleep before going to work, is what makes us perform in our jobs.
But it isn't just about work performance. It includes any other area where we need to be alert, and firing on all cylinders. It prevents accidents, it prevents losing our temper because our tempers are frayed due to lack of sleep, and it affects our ability to earn a living.
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Have you ever been so afraid of something, you've actually frozen on the spot?
In today's video we look at how people with certain jobs face fear regularly, and deal with them.
How do they deal with them? Is it that they are certain types of people, or is it that they have certain habits, which anyone can learn?
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It isn’t about what you say to the bully!
In this article I discuss the different methods of communication and discuss the merits of why body language can prove more effective, more often than people would think, when dealing within a bully dynamic.
On Responding to Physical bullying.
Recently, I've come across articles penned by authors saying you should hit first if you feel you're about to get hit, or if you get hit you should decimate the person who hit you. (Not literally, but hurt them so badly that they'll never think about doing this to you again!) Is this good advice? Are there dangers inherent in giving advice like this to those who may use it without thinking about its potential consequences? Read the article below.
Ahh Losing the fear!!!
What if I were to tell you that you don't actually want to lose the fear?
Today's video goes into it at length, and says it far more eloquently than words alone.
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Electing to deal with the bully yourself is not an easy decision. For some, just reading this makes you want to stop reading.
But I implore you to keep reading because the rewards are many if you decide to deal with them yourself.
If bullying is a power dynamic, which I hope you’ll agree with me that it is, dealing with the bully yourself is empowering…
Do you find yourself saying Yes, when everyone else is saying Yes, even though you disagree? How we keep our mouthes shut about everything, becomes a habit.
This habit of conformity kills our individuality little by little every single day. And I say 'kills' because the more we do it, the more we lose touch with ourselves; With our emotions. We stop feeling. We become these unfeeling, beings. These machines. READ MORE…
The topic of today's video is arguably the most important topic when it comes to the subject of bullying.
It determines not only whether the bullying will continue, but how long, and in which direction it is likely to go, and the timing of that change.
Developing situational awareness affects the direction and outcome of wars, as well as smaller bullying dynamics.
Let's talk about workplace gangs and how they come into creation.
You've heard of the Office Culture before. You've been to job interviews where it may or may not be clear that the interviewer/boss is looking for someone who not only can do the job, but also fits in with the office culture.
Then you have micro-office cultures. This is when a boss within the department has certain emotional/ego needs that must be satisfied. Some people notice this and cater to said boss with good results. Others notice this and cannot be bothered to stroke the boss's ego. This does not go unnoticed by the boss. READ MORE ON BLOG.
Dealing with the bully ourselves can bring about satisfaction, and also ensure we develop ourselves in a way that means we will know how to deal with future bullies. Sometimes however, the nature of the bullying is such that, a third party will be able to bring about an end more effectively. In this brief video we hint at the cost implications of our decision.
The first thing to learn about the beginning or end of any behaviour between two parties is that there are 2 parties involved.
This may sound obvious. But bear with me. Both parties behave in a certain way at the beginning of a bullying relationship, and both parties have to behave differently at the end of a bullying relationship.
Arriving at how that should come about is complex. Watch the video to learn more.
The first thing to learn about the beginning or end of any behaviour between two parties is that there are 2 parties involved.
This may sound obvious. But bear with me. Both parties behave in a certain way at the beginning of a bullying relationship, and both parties have to behave differently at the end of a bullying relationship.
Arriving at how that should come about is complex. Watch the video to learn more.
It's important to recognize that bullying is never your fault. It's always good to tell a trusted friend what is going on and how long, so that you don't …
It's important to recognize that bullying is never your fault. It's always good to tell a trusted friend what is going on and how long, so that you don't …
Being able to predict when a bully might show up, or act up is a telling indicator of what a person who is dealing with a bully dynamic could do to avoid dealing with the bully on their terms. In today's video we talk about Patterning. Click on the image to watch today's video.
Bullies have a way of dictating when you must interact with them by showing up on their timeline, on their schedule, when it's convenient for them. Click on the image to watch today's video.
Your boundaries, like a country, are the lines you put down to say, you're not allowed to cross this line without my permission.
If you behave like you've done nothing wrong and are confident in that thinking, the bully's ability to give themselves permission to transgress your boundaries will be severely impaired.
I've heard people say, "Oh, ignore them!" or "Walk away". Well I've had conversations with people about this and there is a distinction.
I fight me. Who do you fight?
The battle that goes on in our own head to not displease someone is the subject of this article.